Weddings are joyful occasions filled with love, celebration, and making memories. But if you’ve ever found yourself wondering what’s expected of you as a guest, you’re not alone. While each wedding is unique, there are a few universal rules of etiquette that can help you navigate the day with confidence and grace. From RSVPs to dress codes, here’s a handy guide to being a brilliant wedding guest—without stepping on any toes.
RSVP Promptly (and Properly)
One of the easiest ways to start on the right foot is by responding to your invitation in a timely manner. Couples plan their big day with great care, and knowing numbers early helps with seating plans, catering, and budgets. If your invite includes a deadline to RSVP, respect it. If not, aim to reply within a week or two of receiving it. And remember: only RSVP for those specifically invited—don’t assume a plus-one or that children are included unless clearly stated.
Respect the Dress Code
If there’s a dress code mentioned, it’s there for a reason. Whether it’s black tie, cocktail attire or smart-casual, the couple has likely chosen it to match the venue, time of day, or overall feel of the event. Honour their choice by dressing accordingly. When in doubt, it’s always better to be slightly overdressed than underdressed.
Let’s Talk Wedding Guest Dresses
One common area of uncertainty is what to wear, especially for women navigating the many styles of wedding guest dresses. While fashion trends shift each season, some rules remain timeless. Avoid white or anything too close to it, as this colour is traditionally reserved for the bride. You’ll also want to steer clear of anything too flashy, revealing, or inappropriate for the setting. If the ceremony is in a religious venue, be mindful of modesty—bring a light wrap or jacket to cover your shoulders if needed. Above all, aim for something that makes you feel comfortable and confident, while showing respect for the formality of the occasion.
Gifts: Stick to the List (or the Hint)
Many couples include a gift registry or preferred method for receiving gifts—whether that’s a honeymoon fund, a charity donation, or household items. Wherever possible, stick to what’s been requested. If no guidance is given, a thoughtful card with a monetary gift is often appreciated. And if you can’t attend the wedding, it’s still a kind gesture to send a card or gift to show you’re thinking of them.
Be on Time
There’s fashionably late, and then there’s disruptively late. Aim to arrive at least 15–20 minutes before the ceremony starts. Arriving late, especially during a ceremony, can cause unnecessary disruption and put you on edge. Better to be early and relaxed than stressed and sneaking in at the back.
Be Present (Literally and Digitally)
Unless told otherwise, it’s generally best to put your phone away during the ceremony. Many couples are now asking guests to go “unplugged” for those key moments, so the photographer can do their job without smartphones in the way. Even if there’s no official rule, resisting the urge to live-post every moment allows you to enjoy the experience more fully—and it’s simply more respectful.
Drink and Celebrate Responsibly
Weddings are often flowing with food, drink and fun—but that doesn’t mean going overboard. Know your limits, pace yourself, and remember that while it’s a party, it’s also a formal event for people of all ages. Keep things joyful, friendly, and festive—not messy.
Say Your Goodbyes (and Thank Yous)
Before you leave, try to say a quick goodbye and thank you to the couple or their families. It may be a whirlwind for them, but your effort to share kind words will be appreciated. A follow-up message or card after the event is another thoughtful touch.